I learned something about hurt and betrayal about a week ago, and I have to share: When people act out and behave in a way that hurts me, as hard as it is, I’m trying to not hold a grudge against them.

Whether their behaviour was or wasn’t intentional is none of my business. Why? Because making it my business spoils and slows down my own progress in my own life. Doing so clouds my mind and distracts me from focusing on all of the positive things that are going on in my life at this present moment.

With that being said, I always try to find the lessons learned in every situation. Holding a grudge only affects the work I’m trying to put out. It affects the legacy that I’m building, and it puts me in a foul mood, while the root cause of my hurt is off living and enjoying their life.

So, I said, “fuck it!” I’m not even trying to figure out why they did what they did. I’m not trying to have a person up in my feelings either. So, no grudges or hard feelings. I wish everyone all the best, because my life has to go on.

Life doesn’t stop because someone’s hurt me, and I don’t need to be bitter about it either. Am I going to be disappointed about it, angry, and maybe even sad? Probably, and will I have to get over it –most definitely. Will it be difficult? Yes, it will! The reality is that people change, I change, and life changes every day and I have to go through the changes because it’s life.

I had to understand that holding a grudge against someone is just me resisting change. Yes, the person hurt me and betrayed the trust but what if the change that comes out of this situation is a blessing and/or a lesson. This is why I don’t see the point in holding a grudge because if I do I might just not ever see the blessing and/or learn the lesson.

Holding a grudge builds misery and that’s not the life I am trying to live. So, I’m trying my best to be “grudge free”, because I personally feel that holding on to a situation that tried to break me, will only make me miserable. I Feel like when we hold grudges it keeps us glued to the past, and we become stuck in life, while life keeps moving forward. And I’m not trying to live a life being stuck in misery –no thanks!

Overall, I truly believe that the hurt and betrayal we receive from the people we thought we could trust is for a reason. One that we don’t always see optimistically in the beginning but in the end, it makes perfect sense.

From my journey to you

K.G